As a Clinical hypnotherapist and mind coach, I have the privilege of meeting with many clients who seek one-on-one assistance to overcome issues with their self-esteem and self-confidence.

My clients’ challenges vary from anxiety, fear, OCD, phobias, sexual dysfunction, and addiction. But they all shared one commonality – lack of self-worth. It’s like a weed that grows without control if not addressed at the root.

One such client was Anna – (her name has been changed for confidentiality).

Anna had a fear of public speaking and would freeze up whenever she was asked to give presentations at work. When I asked her to rate her self-worth on a scale of 100, she said 30. Her low confidence showed up when she spoke about that experience and rated it 10.

When we briefly touched on her childhood memories, Anna shared how her parents were busy with work and rarely gave her attention, leaving her feeling isolated in comparison to her high-achieving siblings.

Creating a Positive Mindset

We reframed those experiences and reminded her that they did not have to define her self; she could now recognise how unique and special she is.

Building confidence is a process that needs reinforcement. It’s about shifting our perspective and creating a positive mindset with repetition.

Through just 4 sessions, Anna built up her self-confidence and then put it into practice. At work, she volunteered to give presentations and amazed everyone with her transformation with her charisma and poise.

Anna embraced and challenged her fears which created new opportunities. Confidence is not something that magically appears overnight; it requires consistent effort and self-belief.

In the Words of RuPaul: “If You Can’t Love Yourself, How in the Hell Are You Gonna Love Somebody Else?”

As RuPaul so aptly puts it: “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?” These words highlight the importance of self-confidence it is the foundation for healthy relationships and personal growth. When we have confidence in ourselves, we can tackle obstacles head-on and approach life with a positive mindset.

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Accept Your Flaws and Recognise Your Worth

It’s important to recognise that building confidence is a personal process. What works for one person may not work for another. Each individual has their own unique strengths and areas for improvement. My approach is to enhance the resources people already possess and use that to catapult them to where they want to go. The client’s suggestions as far more powerful than any generic hypnosis recording that’s why a bespoke process works much better.

Confidence is not about pretending to be someone you’re not or seeking validation from others. It’s about embracing your true self, accepting your flaws, and recognising your inherent worth. When we have confidence, we can navigate life’s challenges with resilience and self-assurance.

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Final Word

In conclusion, addressing low self-esteem and building confidence is a transformative journey. It requires acknowledging the root cause of self-doubt and developing a positive mindset. By working with a qualified professional, individuals like Anna can overcome their fears and embrace their true potential. Confidence is not a destination but a continuous process of self-discovery and growth.

With confidence, we can navigate life’s ups and downs with grace and resilience, knowing that we are worthy of love, success, and happiness. Building self-confidence is a lifelong practice, just like going to the gym to work your body. You don’t just go once; you make it a good habit. It requires motivation and self-reflection. By focusing on a strong sense of self-worth, we can empower ourselves to pursue our goals and dreams with unwavering determination and belief in our abilities.

Can I get an Amen up in here?!?!

– RuPaul